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| I’m sorry, not sorry if you’re now hearing Stop! In the name of love before you break my heart 🎶🎵playing in your head right now But boundaries really are about love And letting others know how we best receive their care and support Society has been telling you to shrink and acquiesce and be “nice” since birth, especially loudly if you were assigned female at birth (afab) Healthy boundaries are an essential part of any decolonization work and give the patriarchy a nice middle finger or two – or even a Shakespearean I bite my thumb at you, sir (can you tell I was a high school Special Educarion English teacher? lol feels like another life) The collective energetics now are calling for a recalibration and upgrade to your boundaries Where are you noticing anger, frustration and tension in your life? Anyone or anything you’re feeling particularly drained by? These are likely areas needing boundary adjustments/upgrades Note: sacred rage around the state of the world is very understandable (and fucking reasonable) you sensitive soul you and doesn’t necessarily warrant boundary adjustments unless you need some zhooshes around how you consume news and social media right now to protect your sacred energy because your magick and medicine is so needed! (but I digress…) Example #1: Do you have a friend that keeps texting you at 1 am? Perhaps you want to set a sleep time on your phone so it doesn’t wake you up or you could communicate to that friend it’s too late for you – could they wait until the next day? Boundaries can feel oh so hard (especially if you’ve ever engaged with people pleasing tendencies at any point in your life) That doesn’t make them (or you bad) And it certainly doesn’t mean you don’t deserve them I’m here to tell you: You absolutely do! And I’m happy to remind you as many times as you need (really, truly – respond to me ANY time you need a reminder) Example #2: Do you keep checking your work email late into the evening and then perseverate on work things berating yourself on past mistakes and things you should have done “better” and adding more and more tasks to your never-ending to do list? Maybe you need to put your phone in time out in another room (or across the room if you need your phone for alarm things) an hour or two before bed I also recommend replacing that compulsion to check work things with a more nourishing activity like a meditation, bath, or peaceful music or comforting show (because expecting yourself to simply stop isn’t very kind to yourself and goes against the wise yogic teachings) So I’ll ask again, where are you noticing anger, frustration and tension in your life? And if you need help creatively brainstorming aligned boundaries please comment below And if you’re in a season where you feel like you’re starving for support, unsure where to look and terrified to ask (because you don’t want to seem weak and then maybe even more scared to receive it because that means you deserve the good things in your life – which you FUCKING DO according to me) |
| We’ll chat boundaries, your dreams, and everything you’re needing (and what’s weighing on your heart) all at your own pace – completely tailored to you Because you deserve it! You deserve all the love 🫶🫶 Let’s get boundary building, babes! |
